November 20th – Crying

Grandson Dom had a long and trying week, waiting for his Mom and new brother to come home from the hospital. After days of shifting between Dad and school and other grandparents, he spent the last twenty-two hours of his ‘days in waiting’ with us. For the most part he did very well, under the circumstances. He did have a moment shortly after I tucked him into bed on Thursday night. He called out to me and when I went into his room he told me that he wanted his Dad to come for him and he burst into tears – which upset him all the more. I sat down beside him and told him it was fine to shed a few tears, and considering the week that he had been through, it was probably a good idea. I convinced him to lay down, have a bit of a cry and to call me when he felt better and I would come back and open his door. He had his little cry, called me when he was done, had a good night sleep and woke ready to have a good day with us until his Dad came to pick him up.

This little episode inspired me to share some “words of wisdom” on crying – for anyone feeling the urge and especially for Dom – who probably has a few more adjustment to work his way through in the coming days.

“Sometimes things get so messed up, crying is the only thing you can do.” – Joe Connelly

“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

“Tearless grief bleeds inwardly.” – Christian Nevell Bovee

“Crying is never a sign of weakness. From the time we are born, it has always been a sign that we are alive.” Unknown

“Crying is cleansing. There is a reason for tears, happiness or sadness.” – Dionne Warwick

“Laugh til you weep. Weep til there’s nothing left but to laugh at your weeping. In the end, it’s all one.” – Frederick Buechner

“People cry not because they are weak. It’s because they’ve been strong for too long.” – Johnny Dep

“There are people who laugh to show their fine teeth; and there are those who cry to show their good hearts.” – Joseph Roux

That’s it for today, folks. Take care and have a great day!πŸ’ž

35 thoughts on “November 20th – Crying

  1. Great thoughts and quotes, Annmarie. I’ve told men for years the real men cry. It’s a part of every human on this planet and it’s OK to let the tears flow. You handled the situation with Dom so wonderfully. God bless your family! πŸ™πŸ»β€οΈ

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  2. Dom is blessed to have such a wise grandmother! Loved your words of wisdom. Here’s one I always liked: “Tears are healing” I have no idea where it came from or who said it, but I think it’s true.

    I hope Dom, and your whole family, has a wonderful week!

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  3. My mother didn’t believe in crying. At my brother’s funeral 7 years ago she let a few tears drop and apologised for being “silly”. My sister and I simultaneously told her she wasn’t being silly..

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  4. That is sad. I am glad you reassured her. A lot of people were raised that way. I don’t have a lot of patience for whining and crying for no reason. But, Dom seldom cries and when he does it is because he really needs to.

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  5. Wonderful post Anne. Tears can be healing and give relief among other beneficial things. Dom is just so cute, I hope the adjustments ahead of him go well and he quickly falls in love with his little brother.

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  6. AWWW, melts my heart and glad Dom has such a wonderful caring family surrounding him. What wonderful advice and he’s lucky to have you as grandma!! ❀️❀️❀️

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  7. It has taken me many decades to make peace with tears – for too long I was ashamed to let people see me cry. I think perhaps it was a thing passed down through generations. It is good to see that old “rules” in society are shifting.

    Have a good week, Annemarie.

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  8. I always thought I had to be “strong” and would do my best to hide my emotions from my children while they were growing up – I didn’t do them any favors. But, I learned….and so did they. πŸ™‚

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  9. And every generation before ours. πŸ˜‚. But kids are so evolved now. You wouldn’t believe Dom’s vocabulary and his insight. Before he left, we were talking and I said I was glad he ended up getting a good night’s sleep. He said after after I came back and opened the door for him he had a flash of intuition that the next day Grandpa and I would do something special and it would be a really good day. (We decided to give him his Christmas present as a big brother gift but we did not talk about it the night before). But he understood the concept of intuition was and he is six.

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