Mother

by annemariedemyen, posted in April 2022

Today is the 9th anniversary of the day my mother passed away. She was 95 years old and even at that advanced aged – over the course of 95 years – she had not reached perfection. She was still human with human flaws and foibles.

That bothered me at the time. I had this idea that mothers were supposed to be perfect – superhuman. Mothers were there to raise, protect, support, and cherish their children – because that is what mothers did. That is what my mother did. Obviously, mothers were supposed to have their own lives figured out and all of the kinks ironed out before taking on the lofty position of motherhood. My mother had a few kinks – despite being a mother, a grandmother, and a great-grandmother. I had valid reason to be bothered.

Not only was my mother supposed to be perfect but (in my mind) by the time I became a mother I would be a responsible, mature, all knowing, kinkless, perfect super human.

I am pushing 67 years old, a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother and shockingly – my life is still a work in progress! I am still learning, still changing, still growing up and still a flawed and foibled human being. What the hell?!

Mom & I – mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers.

I can’t believe that it has taken me this long to realize that everyone is human and has their own path to travel through this life – their own thoughts, dreams, strengths, weaknesses, challenges, disappointments, and kinks – even mothers who are doing their level best to raise, protect, support, and cherish children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

I wish I could call my mother and tell her it is okay that she wasn’t perfect, that she never reached perfection, that I finally get it and appreciate her humanity. But I am sure she knows …..

Rest in Peace, Mom 💞

That is it for today. Take care and have a great day. 💞

19 thoughts on “Mother”

  5. My mother has been gone almost 6 years and she, too, was almost 95. I am quite convinced that your mother would be happy to know you now realize we are all human with human shortcomings! I think this is called wisdom.

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  13. Nice photo of you and your mother Anne. The flowers are beautiful. We all just do our best, I am in my 80’s and still learning and working on being a better mother, grandmother, and great grandmother.

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  14. Thank you, Mags! As am I, but I am also really trying to become a more developed ‘person’. I think a lot of us lose our own identity when we become a mother -by our own expectations and those of our children and society in general.

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  17. Old enough. 🙂 But the mother is our step-granddaughter. We have a couple of blended families in the mix. Brooklyn has been in our family since she was five, so there is no getting out now. 💞

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